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Falling in love with Leo (all over again)

I can’t be the only girl who remembers going to Titanic more than once or listening to the Romeo + Juliet soundtrack and picturing a skinny Leonardo DiCaprio drinking poison for me. I have a boyfriend who is great, but I am ready to rediscover my love of Leo when the Great Gatsby comes out in a few weeks.

I read the book years ago, and I remember enjoying the themes of love triangles, social classes and general debauchery. The story has been a little muddled in my mind over the years, so it will no doubt come alive again with an old (imaginary) flame. Normally I would re-read the book so I could watch the movie and remark on how poorly it was adapted, but not this time. I’m letting nothing stand in the way of childhood adoration.

Not only is Leo something to look forward to, but I am also thrilled to see Baz Luhrmann’s directorial style again. To this day I can still sing full songs from Moulin Rouge. The grandeur that he brings to the screen is such an overwhelming experience. In fact, the only way to make it better is to supplement the visuals with wine…which I probably will do.

I doubt I will be the only 20-something girl in the theatre getting a little misty eyed looking at Leonardo. If the preview was any clue, this movie will be a good excuse to fall in love with him all over again.


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Abortions and the Holocaust

Did I really just have to explain the difference between abortion and the Holocaust to several people? Do people truly think like this? Maybe to rational folks with the ability to look deeply at social issues and history it seems obvious, but I found there are those who have yet to reach this point.

First and foremost, my opinion on abortion does not stem from a religious upbringing. I was raised with God in my life, but my parents wanted me to come to my own conclusions about what happens after we die. They taught me morals, decency, humanity and independent thought. I thank them very much for this.

I suppose for those raised in an ultra-Christian home, the message might have been a little different. Do I think all Christians are extreme? No, of course not. I would identify as Christian, as would many of my friends. I feel that we took a broader glance at the meaning of religion and saw the ultimate message of living your life the best you can, helping those in need and finding peace and comfort in the idea of a benevolent creator. I do not act the way I do to seek reward for a golden afterlife- I do it as a human to have a better existence for myself and my fellow humans.

I see the ultra-Christian passing judgment and condemning women for a terribly personal and life-changing choice. In my sense of religion, this feels wrong. How can we know what God is thinking about that person? How could we ever know the circumstances and emotions of another person’s life and feel so high and mighty as to call them a murderer, comparing them to Hitler?

Let’s head back to the topic of abortion and the Holocaust. Since it obviously needs some clarifying for some, I will make it easy.

The victims of the Holocaust were breathing, thinking fully formed humans with a history and footprint on the world. They endured atrocities for lengths of time, ranging from starvation, humiliation, experimentation, disease and emotional mind fucks. Their families were ripped apart. Their loss has echoed through generations, creating a wound that still seeps down through family trees.

An aborted fetus is a collection of cells that has yet to form into a coherent viable form. The impact is felt in the woman who has to make the choice, not on a global level like the Holocaust. That cell cluster did not breathe, did not think, did not know or understand what was happening to it. Look at a child who is abused to death and tell me it’s the same thing.

Hitler is recognized in history as an evil and over zealous person with a hatred for the Jews (and others who were deemed “different”) so that he strategically starved, tortured, experimented and ravaged millions of them. Pro choice people are not in any way close to this. It’s insanity to even make that comparison. Our belief is that a woman has the right to what happens in her body and in her life, a choice that is hers to make and no one else’s. To listen to some, pro choice people are rounding up babies and hacking them with a machete. That is ludicrous.

If Christians are so adamantly pro life, I wonder why we have so many children who have already been born who lack food, shelter, stability and sometimes love. What about those children? Why do I not hear impassioned cries for them? Why do I not see signs protesting the miserable condition of their already existing life? Why is there a need to bring more children into situations of neglect? If I saw more Christians opening their hearts and homes, I’d be a little more eager to listen to them and take their shit seriously.

In my discussions, I also saw the underlying implications that the pregnancy was punishment for the woman engaging in sexual acts. Yikes. That’s a can of worms.

To summarize, it is so outrageously offensive to people who have lost family members in the Holocaust to compare their history with a woman choosing to end her own pregnancy. The legal system thankfully recognizes this, and as long as rational people continue to outrank on this issue, things will remain that way.


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So my cat died

I found out today that one of my family cats was put down. For a moment I thought I had grown up so much because I could take the information without crying (I am a total animal lover and somewhat sentimental). Just as I was about to move on with my day, it hit me. The emotions were complex and intricate in a way that extended beyond the death of a cat.

I moved away from Idaho about three and a half years ago. The distance from my family has been tolerable but sometimes lonely. No matter how much my mother may claim otherwise, the place I called home for so long is not mine anymore. The pets I had as a child are now dying, and with them a piece of my childhood. I now have a place and pets of my own, a job, bills, responsibility. The home I go back to will be much quieter and the memories will be much older.

I’m not afraid of growing older and growing up necessarily, but I am nostalgic for a time when I was innocent and unaware of how difficult the world actually is. I also have to face the sad truth that everything and everyone eventually dies. I think I broke down at the fact I wasn’t as sad as I have been in the past when my animals died. It just goes to show that the tragedies become relative with age, and I have reached an age where I understand and can be okay with something that once would have devastated me.

With that thought, I put dear old Max the cat to rest in my mind.


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Long distance love

This is going to be a little off topic from my general tirades about the atrocities in the world at large. My world has shrunk down into a somewhat concentrated mush of emotions that can only be brought on by a missing significant other.

I feel like a band widow.

My partner has been traveling with his band for the last month and has much more traveling left to do. Text messages are about as short as Facebook status updates and usually far less personal. I guess I’m sending my thoughts into the world hoping for some cathartic release. I’m sure wine would help with that, as well.

The question that keeps nagging at me above everything- above the fear of infidelity, above the fear of danger- is wondering how do two people stay in love when they live like this? How can that connection remain alive when all that exists are the phone call check ins every few days interspersed with messages outlining locations and meal choices? Within a month I might be lucky to get a few hours of physical contact. How many years of falling second to a career can I take?

Parenting with your IPad

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I get that parents have their hands full. A lot of households have both parents working or single parent situations, limiting the time that can be dedicated to a preschooler. I truly do understand there are difficulties. I also understand wanting the best for your child.

My Preschool children are learning the alphabet and how to write and sound out what they see. I try to work with the many ways children learn, having them hear the different alphabet sounds, trace them, write them, roll them out with dough, etc. I’m always looking for fun new ways to get them excited about learning their letters (if you have ideas, please share!). I went looking for a letter writing app to broaden my letter writing spectrum. Not only is it another way of having them “see, say and write,” but I love cutting down on the amount of paper we use.

I ran across this review when searching letter writing apps. The app I found is free and fairly basic- it says the letter aloud, and the child can trace the dotted outline of each capital and lower case letter. Of course there are going to be other apps that have more options, but I feel that I don’t need something to do the teaching for me.

What makes me mad about this review is the clear desire for a piece of technology to do the job that a parent or teacher is supposed to do. Yes, there is no “good job!” Or “try again” feature. I find that a parent can do that when working WITH their child. I also mentioned that this is a free app, so for parents willing to pay a meager $2.99, there is surely something that will talk to your child more than you.

This review was not isolated. Numerous other parents had similar complaints about the lack of direction. I dislike the assumption that a canned voice coming out of a tablet should be congratulating and guiding my child more than I should. Think about the many years before ipads were available. Children had coloring books and writing sheets with dotted lines. The obvious feedback had to come from the person giving them the materials. My question is this- is technology allowing parents to be lazier? Are we taking advantage of a great learning tool and diminishing our role in children’s education?


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Enough is enough

http://worldnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/02/08/16904780-south-africans-mourn-rape-victim-say-enough-is-enough?lite=

http://world.time.com/2013/02/08/a-gang-rape-reinforces-acapulcos-decline-but-what-of-mexicos-other-resorts/?iid=us-x-mostpop2

The stories of gang rape and brutality continue around the world. How
many more of these will there be in the next year, or for that matter
the next week? I cannot understand how attacks on women continue. I
cannot understand how men continue to work together as a pack like animals, lacking emotion or empathy. Obviously there is a power component to their disgusting actions, but what compels them to cause such mental and physical trauma on another human being? Do they hate their mothers? Do they hate themselves? Clearly they lack a set of moral standards to which the rest of society tries to adhere.

I know that Canada had put out a commercial awhile back targeting how men should behave rather than how women can “prevent themselves from getting raped.” This is definitely a step in the right direction. I know there are events like Take Back The Night. I’m discouraged by the ignorant comments by politicians (which I discussed in an earlier post), and things like that lead me to believe that somewhere in our system we are failing. People legitimately believe in completely backwards ideas on rape. How has this happened?

Now I am left asking myself this very important question- “What can I
do to help stop this from happening?” How can the voices of reason be heard over the garbled lies and misinterpretations of how and why rapes occur? I feel almost helpless when I think about the staggering change that needs to take place when it comes to how women are viewed and treated in this world.

BUT

I cannot stop bringing attention to this.
I cannot accept that this is just the way it is.
I cannot stop hoping that intelligent and empathetic creatures such as human beings can make progress.

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